Gilbert Arenas Proves the Sunken Place Has Plenty Good Room

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This nuh. Former pro-baller Gilbert Arenas recently spewed his hateful ignorance all over Instagram and was summarily (and rightly) dragged for it.


The latest in a long line of “celebrities” that peddle in daily misogynoir (yeah, I’m looking at you, French Montana, Tyrese), Arenas took to social media to disparage dark-skinned women, saying they are “ewwww.”


In a since-deleted post, Arenas wrote, “Not to be funny, but can you name a beautiful black woman on the outside … not brown skinned … but Tyrese black. …When you have African features black then u have number#1 lupita n’yongo and she’s cute when the lights are off. Second you have (Ajuma Naseyana ) Sorry but ewwwww… so the black beautiful women you boost up is technically light skinned or brown skinned.”

The coldest part is that, as one commenter noted, his daughter is a beautiful black girl herself.

Hence the draggin:


“No Chill Gil” must have gotten some religion (and his sister Christy Arenas must’ve got in that ass), because he posted a rambling mea culpa soon after entitled, “Dear Black Girl, You Don’t Have to Be Mixed to Be Beautiful.”

The rantlike apology said in part that he acted like a “COON,” and yet he still managed to diss Lupita one more time.


On the real-real, though, Arenas is obviously articulating what many men in the NBA live (see the show and real-life “basketball wives” for proof).

In the words of a wise man I once knew: The sickness is deep.

Ms. Bronner Helm is the Senior Editorial Director at Colorlines. Mouthy Black Girl. Rosalynn Carter Mental Health Fellow. Shea Butter Feminist. Virgo Sun, Aries Moon.

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I’m not someone who follows sports in a diehard fashion, & I’m definitely an outright hater of basketball. However, this guy speaks for a large number of black men- possibly the majority (especially those around 50 & under). His “apology” was forced, bc he meant (& means) what he said the first time. I don’t think these clowns ought to be dragged until they say,”I’m sowwy”. They’re not. Now, they just know to keep living the same way (ostracizing certain black women), while just never verbalizing it. It would be one thing if these guys were just professional athletes, but it’s not. Regular black men from all classes think this way, & they don’t mind announcing it- which makes it hard for a black woman with sense to find a black partner. As someone who’s been publicly pointed out as an “exotic”, & had my parentage asked about in checkout lines, I know I wasn’t dating/marrying these ignorant-assed fucks back when I was single. They don’t really LIKE you if you have the “right” features, either. They only “like” us bc we don’t remind them too much of what race they actually are, when they look at us on their arm. No, thanks. That’s not love, or like, & other black women who are deemed as “the right kind”, also need to stop playing themselves, & fucking with these clowns, too. It’s the only thing that will make some of them step back & finally think. If a man is anti-black, & you’re black, why would you want to be with him? I don’t get that at all. Just bc he’s the same race as you, doesn’t mean he’s on your side.